my heart is broken…..while in COLORADO, i received a phone call that nobody ever wants to receive… of my church youth was killed in a head on collision back in SOUTH DAKOTA….actually, i read it on FACEBOOK….i have a severe problem with FACEBOOK….people were offering their support and prayers to the family while the family was still at the accident site….that’s very sad……i’m sure some family members and many many friends found out on FACEBOOK instead of getting a phone call……


the young man’s name is TREVOR WAMPLER….i have known TREVOR for the last 8 years.  or, being he was 17 at the time of the accident, i knew him when he was 8 or 9……TREVOR was an incredible kid….which showed yesterday when over 430 people completely packed our church for the service…..we had his entire class at BRITTON-HECLA schools….we had his soccer team…his youth group from our church sat together….massive amounts of family, and a tremendous amount of friends…..TREVOR has the most wonderful smile…his eyes lit up when he smiled….and this boy could crack me up like no one else….he had such a dry sense of humor, but it was the humor that would absolutely crack you up when you got it…….here’s a picture of my little buddy….


you see that goofy smile?  i will miss that so much…here’s another picture with, evidently, someone who doesn’t want their picture taken…..



I LOVED THIS KID….we were very very close, and the last thing i wanted to do was his funeral….actually, it has been my fear that i would someday have to do a funeral of a baby, a child, or a teenager….well, i have now been initiated…..and i don’t like it……i had trouble trying to stop crying from the day i found out until after the service yesterday……for those of you that don’t know, i am also the pastor at two churches in northeast SOUTH DAKOTA….this funeral just about did me in….i haven’t felt this kind of sadness for a long long time……and it’s so tragic to have it be someone who is so greatly loved, and who had such a promising future ahead of him…….

my heart also breaks for his parents…they have now lost two children….and could have lost a third in an accident a few years back……they had four children…now they have two that are still here…….it just makes you wonder why that big dark cloud is hanging over them……they seemed to do pretty well the last couple of days…but their hard days are still ahead……that’s when i’ll be there for them……

i pray that all of you will never have to go thru something like this….and i’m saddened that a few of you probably already have…’s so unfair…….TREVOR WAMPLER, I LOVE YOU AND I WILL MISS YOU FOREVER……


while i was in DENVER, i had a hat made for him that i wore during the ceremony for a short while, and then at the cemetery TREVOR’S dad made me wear it the whole time…ha ha…



someone also developed a logo for stickers….i bought some smaller ones and a big one for my garage….



REST IN PEACE MY FRIEND….until we meet again…which we will….and, by the way, it’s not GOODBYE…it’s “SEE YOU LATER.”  I LOVE YOU……

Author: jaydeanhcr

Jay Dean spent 30 years in the radio business working morning shows and having fun on the air. Jay is now the host/creator of a very popular radio show called “Country Legends Jukebox.” Jay also helps out ministering at two churches in the area. Jay is at St. John's Lutheran in Hecla, SD, and Trinity Lutheran in Houghton, SD. Jay is blessed to have his beautiful wife Jeannie by his side, and received the two greatest gifts he could ever receive in his sons Tyler and Mitchell. Jay's interests including listening to classic country music, including his favorite Hank Williams, SR., and watching his beloved Washington Redskins and Minnesota Wild.

3 thoughts on “MY HEART IS BROKEN…..”

  1. Jay,

    My sincerest sympathies on this tragedy.

    There are no explanations. There is only the Word to guide and bring comfort when things are darkest.

    I became a licensed mortician in 1988. Since then, after spending years in both medicine and mortuary field, and often living with death in a far more up close and personal fashion than can ever be easily tolerated, He has been there to sustain while I helped shoulder the hurts of others, and when death claimed my own loved ones as well.

    Where our abilities and understanding falter, His strength and love is endless, in both this life and the next.

    Thank you for sharing your experience, and your faith in Christ, and being willing to take on the massive responsibility of both pastor and teacher. It’s a difficult position to undertake in the best of times.

    My prayers are with you and your flock, for God to let peace prevail and healing to come to the broken hearts affected by Trevor’s passing.

  2. 😦 an apt reading from today’s Our Daily Bread: Lamentations :3:32 “Though He brings us grief, He will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love..” my sincere condolences to Trevor’s family and to you as his good friend.

  3. SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS DAVE! I wish hope and healing for you and that young man’s family and friends they are lucky to have some one like you and your family in their life, I know when i lost my brother to cancer how hard it was to deal with the loss! take care and keep being the great person that you are! Roger K Walker.

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